Attention.
You are approaching practices that can significantly alter your state of being. To ensure health and balance accompany you on this path, please read carefully.
The three pillars that form the foundation of Shibari and its related practices can be summed up by the acronym SRS:
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Safety – Only in a safe environment can a person truly relax. And only in that relaxed state can the deep experiences we aim for be reached.
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Respectful consent – All practices are entered into voluntarily. Clear agreements and safe words are essential. Only through mutual consent can we reach the peak of pleasure.
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Sanity – Every action in these practices must pass through the filter of common sense. Otherwise, there is risk of harm — which is unacceptable.
Terminology you’ll encounter in this text:
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Nawashi – In Japanese, a rope master or rope maker. In Shibari circles, refers to the person tying.
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M-jo / Model – A woman who enters a sensory journey with the nawashi while being tied.
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Mo – The male equivalent of m-jo.
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Session – A shared experience or “dance” between nawashi and m-jo, where her role is to relax, stay present with her sensations and feelings, and surrender control to her nawashi. The deepest possible state reached in a session is called subspace.
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Subspace – A deep altered state reached by the “bottom” or receiver. Unlike ecstatic states rooted in euphoria, subspace arises from deep submission — the opposite of control (i.e., “domspace”). This duality is what makes it both pleasurable and potentially risky.
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Ichinawa – “One-rope technique” used for introduction: nawashi meets m-jo, and m-jo meets nawashi and Shibari.
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Ikigai – A Japanese concept meaning “reason for being” or “life’s purpose.”
Safety Techniques – The Psychological Side
Loss of control – Our brain controls our limbs 24/7. When movement of the arms and legs is restricted, the mind begins to release that control step by step. This shift can feel pleasant — similar to sensations one might experience under the influence of certain substances or anesthesia.
Without trust in the nawashi, the m-jo’s mind will stay tense and unable to let go. That’s why trust in the nawashi and the practice is crucial. To help m-jo relax into the session, it’s best to begin with ichinawa, then untie, connect through conversation, and only afterward proceed to deeper practice.
Confidence is a key mark of mastery: the more deeply the nawashi understands the subtleties of Shibari, and the more experience they have, the more confident their actions become. That confidence builds trust, which deepens the experience, opens the door to self-discovery during the session, reveals more layers — and raises the thresholds of pleasure.
Clear knowledge of safety protocols, access to first aid tools, rope-cutting scissors, and the responsible mindset of all participants create a container of confidence. This, in turn, allows deeper and even ecstatic states to unfold.
Ecstasy – A state in which consciousness either detaches from the mind or expands within it, and the body experiences sensations that resemble — or even surpass — orgasm, lasting longer than an orgasm would. The body may tremble in waves of orgasmic convulsions or enter a deep release.
But with this, a risk arises — similar to that of substance addiction.
To avoid being pulled into obsessive pursuit of such states, one must have clear and solid inner foundations.
Human Anchors in Reality
For a person with stable inner and outer life foundations, Shibari, Kinbaku, and related practices are a form of play. But for someone whose life is not yet in order, these practices can become a test of psychological resilience — and may trigger consequences described below.
Before engaging in practice, consider how stable your external anchors are:
Support from family, a home of your own, a reliable circle, fulfilling work, a financial buffer, stable income, material security.
And internal ones:
Core values and the ability to act by them, life principles, your Ikigai, physical health, personal experience, belief system, and hobbies that bring you soulful joy.
Without these, a practitioner might be swept into altered states where the mind chases past pleasures, loses its moral compass, and eventually disconnects from the spirit. This leads to a loss of life’s meaning.
The name for such collapse is personality disorder.
Personality Disorder – To others, it may be invisible. But for the person themselves, the signs are clear:
Joy disappears. The inner light goes dim. Life feels dull and grey.
If this has already happened — know this:
You’ll need to rebuild your foundations (see internal and external anchors). That path will lead you back to health.
Health, as defined by the World Health Organization, is a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being — not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.
In other words, by approaching Shibari, you are close to becoming captivated by the pleasures of lust — what our ancestors called debauchery.
Debauchery — moral corruption, promiscuity, and a decline in values and behavior. It begins with lustful thoughts.
Let me remind you: sinful actions lead to what the Bible calls hell — and you don’t have to wait for the soul to pass into another realm. People with personality disorders often experience this “hell” here, in this life. Evidence of this can be seen in attempts to numb inner pain through alcohol or drugs.
To those stepping into the practice.
No matter how you try to disguise your lustful intentions from others — or from yourself — in the end, the only person you will fool is yourself. That’s how it works: by masking or denying your intentions, you still end up facing the consequences on your own.
But here’s the good news: it is far more interesting and beneficial to transform what the ancestors called “lust” into play — a tool for improving health and deepening the connection with your spirit.
This is where we are guided by powerful meanings that have traveled through millennia, curated by the author of this project.
The Mission of the K-Shibari Project:
To encourage self-discovery and understanding of one’s own nature, with the goal of bringing life into clarity, wholeness, and well-being.
To fulfill desires connected with K-Shibari as a path to freedom.
We strive for clear, conscious love within ourselves.
Author: Alex.Kin
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