5 Steps into Shibari

Shibari is a deep and sensual practice that requires a mindful approach and safe conditions.
If you're looking to begin, it's crucial to understand the basics of safety, preparation, and the ethics of interaction.

1. What You’ll Need for Bondage

Before diving into shibari, make sure you’re properly prepared:

Safety knowledge – Understand the risks, anatomy, and communication principles.
Ropes – Natural or synthetic, depending on your style and comfort.
Scissors, safety knife, or strap cutter – A quick-release tool is a must-have.
A trusted partner – Mutual trust and consent are the foundation of this practice.
A safe and comfortable space – Check for hazards and distractions.
Blindfold (optional) – Can deepen sensations and reduce control.
A clear plan for your ties – Structure supports mindfulness and safety.
Understanding boundaries – For first-timers, it’s best to avoid intimate or erotic engagement.

2. Communication Between Partners

Model briefing – The rigger should explain what the model will gain from the session and what skills they’ll develop.
Session planning – The nawashi should share the session structure in advance to build trust and set clear expectations.
Stick to the plan – Staying on script helps maintain intrigue and reinforces trust.

3. During the Bondage

Ongoing check-ins – Verbal and non-verbal communication helps monitor the model’s state.
Comfort and sensation – Ropes shouldn’t cause pain or numbness. Keep the process safe and conscious.

4. Conscious Immersion for the Model

Focus on sensations – The model learns to feel into their body, release tension, and stay connected to breath.
Emotional expression – Verbal and non-verbal feedback after the session helps the nawashi understand and adapt better.

5. Aftercare

Physical and emotional support – The rigger should manage their energy to provide proper aftercare—it’s not optional.
Post-session connection – Cuddles, gentle touches, or conversations help the model integrate their experience.

Conclusion

Shibari can be a thrilling and transformative practice if approached with awareness and respect.
By following these foundational principles, you can safely explore rope art and unlock profound emotional and physical states.

To deepen your understanding of the art and its language, explore our Shibari Glossary.
And if you're ready to experience a professional session or start learning under an instructor – visit our home page.