Shibari Master's Book
One of the core ideas of this book is simple: a woman must be studied. That’s what creates the very tandem so many dream about. The author has more than three women he truly loves. And it’s also a crucial skill for any master – because only from a place of love can you conduct a truly high-quality shibari session. – @alex.kin
From the perspective of a K-Shibari master, men generally don’t understand women at all — and that’s why most of their desires stay unfulfilled. Understanding allows you to remain in harmony with yourself in any situation, act with a woman authentically, ecologically, and give and receive what both sides want — the best things women bring: love, co-creation, incredible sex, intuition, and a few other delights.
This book is a set of real stories and descriptions of techniques that allowed the author to experiment boldly — making the experience not only extremely interesting, but also deeply useful in terms of passion, play, and inner states.
The purpose of writing this book was to:
a) understand the mechanics of how arousal works;
b) learn how to use that arousal toward shared goals — to reach extraordinary pleasurable states;
c) understand how the human unconscious operates.
Achievements: subspaces, pet play, group experiments, a master–slave contract, spanking, tantra, and more… You’ll find all of this inside this shibari book.
The author considers the most important skills of a shibari master to be:
– communication;
– understanding women;
– the ability to build the kind of relationship where she’s willing to trust you enough to be tied.
Special attention is given to the art of opening a woman through shibari to reach deep states, and to the mechanics of the master–model dynamic — so you can enjoy more beautiful states, experiences, and models in your life.
This is a collection of stories and notes that reveal the subtle, behind-the-scenes life of a shibari master — the “you can really do that?!” effect during reading is guaranteed.
Contents of the shibari book
Ropes.
For beginner shibari practitioners.
On the relationships of a shibari master.
Shibari on the ocean shore.
A shibari-gift for a beautiful woman.
BDSM: where to start?
Among sexually liberated women.
The joys and sorrows of a master.
Tying inexperienced girls.
Red bottoms, or why spank a girl?
About anal sex.
Love is a drug. Separation — how to survive it.
“Feel!”
A selection of photos from a Dutch master.
Opening your partner and the techniques of blowjob.
BDSM: where to start? Part 2.
Possibilities of shibari.
Manifestations of emotions.
“Let’s play a game.”
Practice!
For men.
Handcuffs. Double Kolontai.
Shibari in a photographer’s studio.
Safety rules for shibari.
The influence of shibari on BS, PS, S.
Basics of tantra for women.
Yoga and holotropic masters, Goa.
The story of a slave and a contract.
Shibari with a Japanese woman without sex.
An Indonesian girl and broken condoms.
Connection with an Indonesian woman. The story of a widow.
Miss Pinky – shibari with a yoga instructor.
The Vietnamese girl.
Shibari: benefits and risks.
Shibari with a tantra teacher.
Swingers.
…and more.
This book will also
give you answers — or inspire you to find your own — to questions like:
– How to find better models?
– What’s allowed and what’s not?
– How to stay confident?
– How to behave with a woman/model?
– How does she make decisions?
– How to respond to her emotions and provocations?
– How does a master speak so that a woman opens up?
– What do we actually receive from the model?
– Is it okay to undress her?
– How to bring up love or sex without pressure?
– What to do if you messed up and both of you lost the mood?
– How to offer shibari?
– What’s the structure of a session: from first contact to aftercare?
– Why do they sometimes disappear, and how to deal with it?
– How to dominate?
– Who is a real dominant?
About the Master / Author
The Shibari Master’s Book is written by Alex.Kin — creator of the projects Shibari.Bali and K-Shibari, and co-author of the definition of “Shibari” on Wikipedia (ua, ru) (together with Tetiana Tereshchenko — Tati Limati and the team).
About the Book
What if this shibari book became the spark that helps you learn to open and understand women?
To see them without roles. Without fear of being judged. Without masks.
This book is not fiction. These are real stories from Koh Phangan and Bali, from Goa, the Himalayas, and even wartime Kyiv. Real people, real sessions, real transformations. Some readers later became supporters of the author — and later even became part of the stories. Events took place between 2015 and 2022, with notes continuing into 2024.
Unique models: tantra practitioners, facilitators of women’s practices, sexologists, yoginis, a professional submissive, musicians, dancers…
They all came into shibari from different worlds — and left in love with the art, carrying new self-knowledge.
My name is Alex.Kin, I’m a shibari master. One of my strengths is a research-oriented approach. The other — during the creation of this book — was traveling across different countries, islands and cities: places where you don’t need to “keep a straight face.” We met and parted; with many, I never crossed paths again, and with some we’re still friends despite the distance. Because of these circumstances, my models opened up, shared things people rarely speak about. And with them, in those states, we experimented — I observed and found answers.
Inside the shibari book are stories of people and practices:
shibari, spanking, pet play, yoni massage, domination, flagellation, deep explorations, swing dynamics, psychological games.
And the main question I kept asking myself again and again:
“Why does this work the way it does?”
This isn’t just eroticism. This is research.
It’s about the dimensions of pleasure, where beautiful people come to sessions, open up, learn, and leave grateful for the depth.
Will this shibari book help you understand women better than 99.9% of men?
We’ll find out — after you read it.
Book release — coming soon
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Print edition — sales open in 2026
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